Expressing Opinions

A month or so ago I met someone who was attractive, articulate, and fit. Together we have done the normal dating stuff such as coffee, dinner, movies, walks, hiking, and have taken in a club or two. We have the love of the outdoors, eating healthy, being fit, political leanings, and a twisted sense of humor in common. I’d say we were getting along okay.

We are both private people, thus it has been difficult to get passed the superficial stuff and get to know each other. I told her early on I have diabetes and it wasn’t a problem. I have told other people and they decided they didn’t want to see me any more. I guess for some it doesn’t make any difference I am much fitter and healthier than the average person. She did introduce me to her 4 year old daughter and from what I could gather, the “kid thing” has been an issue in the past. I like kids so we hit it off.

But for the most part neither of us has given up much information about ourselves. I did learn from a friend she had a cursory background check done on me, but it showed I was not a felon and not much else. When I mentioned it she was a little surprised I knew and did say something to me about the lack of information, however she did not ask for more. Me on the other hand have just been cruising along enjoying her company and letting things progress at a slower than normal rate, which is fine with me. I assumed she most likely had a few interesting relationships and was simply being cautious. I also know eventually most of the real scary stuff comes out sooner than later.

Yesterday we spent the good part of the day together, enjoying the sunshine and cold weather with a mix of indoor and outdoor activities. We definitely had fun. As our day was coming to an end we were sitting in a Starbucks not far from where she lives ( I have not been to her home yet.) and a place we both frequent, when a guy walks in along with her daughter. I recognized her daughter as she came through the door, but did not know the guy. I guess I could have said something, but my little voice was telling me to let it play out.

I could tell the guy did not recognize me, but he definitely recognized her even though she was not facing him. He walked up said, “Excuse me!” and started asking her when was she going to come home? He walked off leaving the daughter with us. She explained she was going through a divorce, but still they lived together. I ask how long until it is final and she stated they did not file yet, but were working on it and living together to save money.

Well excuse me! I may be a single guy, but I am not a man whore most of the time and I do have a few values. One is I do not date women who are married or seeing someone else. Needless to say I will not be seeing her again.

Dating can sometimes be a real pain in the ass!

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